Self-Discipline and Setting Intentions for 2019

^“All athletes are disciplined in their training.  They do it to win a prize that will fade away, but we do it for an eternal prize.  So I run with purpose in every step. I am not just shadowboxing. I discipline my body like an athlete, training it to do what it should. Otherwise, I fear that after preaching to others I myself might be disqualified.”  1 Corinthians 9:26-27 NLT

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On September 3^rd, 2017, my husband and I ran in the Virginia Beach half marathon.  For twelve weeks, I woke up early to train.  I wore my running clothes to bed, charged my sports watch the night before, and placed my phone on the floor to force myself to get up when my alarm went off.  After a tall glass of water, a healthy breakfast, and my daily prayer time, I’d complete my work out, mixing up strength, speed, and endurance training with dreaded hill sprints to improve my performance and build mental discipline. 

Training my body to run 13.1 miles was hard.  There were many times I wanted to sleep in and skip my workout.   There were days I was sore and tired from the one before.  On those days, I synced my ear buds to my favorite playlist and told myself to just do something.   Most days, something turned into a decent workout and, even when it wasn’t my best performance, it was better than nothing.  The simple act of doing something helped build the habit and move me one step closer to my goal.  On the days I wasn’t motivated, I learned how to be disciplined.

The Need for Self-Discipline

In 1 Corinthians chapter 9, the Bible compares the Christian life to running a race.  It calls us to discipline our body like an athlete, training it to do what it should by exercising self-control and setting an example for others.  Rather than run aimlessly, we are called to run with purpose, pursuing the knowledge of Christ and the upward call of eternal life (1 Cor 9:24).  Rather than compete for earthly rewards, we are called to compete for an imperishable crown – a heavenly reward given to those who sacrifice selfish desires to faithfully run the race God has set before them (1 Cor 9:25).  This race looks different for each of us, but the end goal – inheriting God’s Kingdom – is the same.

The word “discipline” comes from discipulus, the Latin word for pupil and the source of the word, disciple.¹  Many people think a disciple is a follower, but in fact, a disciple is a student.  It is a person who is trained by a teacher and who follows a plan of instruction.²  Jesus is our Teacher and His Word is our instruction manual.  To be a disciple of Jesus, we must develop physical, mental, and spiritual discipline.  These disciplines are the means by which God transforms us.³  They are a non-negotiable part of living an abundant Christian life.

Self-discipline is not inherent – it is cultivated over time by sacrificing what we want in the short term for the long-term goal of becoming more like Christ.  Thus, physical and spiritual discipline are closely intertwined.  The Bible tells us that “for the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12:11).  Whether this is caring for our body through physical activity, controlling what we eat, or studying scripture, exercising self-discipline is difficult.  But, the return is well worth the investment.

Race Day

The weekend of the race, my husband and I booked a room on the boardwalk, within walking distance of the starting line.  The night before, the hotel adjacent to ours featured a live band, which played well past the 11 pm curfew.  When my alarm went off at 5:30 am, I had less than four hours of sleep. 

After my pre-workout snack (i.e. banana and peanut butter on a whole grain wrap), I threw on my gear and securely fastened my running bib to the front of my shirt.  Written next to my number was “corral 3,” which meant I would run with a group on pace for an 8:30/mile.  This would keep me on track to meeting my goal of finishing in less than two hours. 

As I approached the starting line, the pre-race jitters set in.  My stomach felt queasy and I found myself in line at the outhouses with hundreds of other participants minutes before the gun went off.  I missed the National Anthem and was still waiting when corral 3, 4, and 5 took off.  I began the race in corral 9, on pace for a 10 min/mile, with no time to mentally prepare myself and already twelve minutes behind.

I spent the first few miles frantically trying to catch up, running at a sub 8 min/mile pace.  At mile 7, I made an unexpected pit stop due to consuming too much water.  By mile 9, my legs were burning and I was gasping for breath.  This is where you might expect me to put on my power song and push through, but that’s not what I did.  I walked.  I recognized that it was a (literally) a marathon, not a sprint, and I gave myself some grace. 

At mile 10, my music cut out and I struggled to stay motivated.  To keep going, I had to shift my focus from how far I had to go to simply putting one foot in front of the other.  I praised God for the ability to run, regardless of how I felt in the moment, and reminded myself what was most important.  It wasn’t my time – it was taking in the experience, building endurance, and practicing disciplines that would help me in all aspects of life.

As I approached the last mile, I picked up my pace and spotted a runner from corral 3 ahead.  Determined to finish strong, I vowed not to lose sight of her.  I stuck by her side and crossed the finish line at 1:53, seven minutes under my goal time.  The race had gone nothing like I’d planned, but it was still a success.  Not only because I beat my husband’s time (a little healthy competition never hurt), but also because I had persevered.

(Side note: My husband claims that had he properly trained for the race – that is, run more than twice a week or completed a long run greater than 8 miles – he would have beat me.  Doug, if you’re reading this, I challenge you to put a little action behind those words 😉  I hear there’s a half marathon in D.C. nine weeks from now.  Just sayin’…)

Perhaps you’ve set goals for the New Year and already feel like you’ve fallen behind.  You wanted to take off with corral 3, but faced unexpected delays.  I’m here to tell you it’s not too late!  We build physical discipline by intentionally pressing forward in spite of difficulties.  Take the first step, trust that God will guide you, and just get started!

There will be “pit-stops” along your path – expect them.  The Christian life was never meant to be a straight line from point A to point B; the detours grow and strengthen us in a way a clearly defined path never could.  We build mental discipline when we welcome divine interruptions, ignore distractions, and focus on running the race God has marked out for us.  It’s not about our time – it’s about who we become in the process.

Know that you’ll go through spiritual and motivational dry spells where you’ll feel like you’re “running” alone.  In these moments when our faith is tested, our spiritual endurance has a chance to grow (James 1:3 NLT).  When you lose stamina, shift your focus from how far you have to go to simply taking the next step.  Focus on God’s blessings instead of your shortcomings.  Seek out others who are running the same race – toward Christ – and remember it’s a marathon, not a sprint (Phil 3:17 MSG).  Pace yourself and give yourself some grace. 

Pairing Goals with Intentions

“We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps” (Proverbs 16:9 NLT).  One way to avoid discouragement when things don’t go as planned is to pair our goals with intentions.  Unlike goals, which are focused on the end product, intentions are process-focused.  They are based on our internal mindset and are independent of whether we’re on track to achieving our goal.  For example, someone with a goal to lose ten pounds may set intentions to enjoy life-giving foods that nourish her body, give her more energy, and help her feel her best.

Intentions, such as developing awareness, experiencing joy, extending grace, and expressing gratitude, are lived each day.  They allow us to enjoy the journey, be present in the moment, and stay positive despite roadblocks we encounter.

This year, let’s pair our goals with intentions!  We can start by creating space in our schedule to reflect on how we’ve grown and discern where God is leading us in the year ahead.  Write down what comes to mind in this Dream Guide by author Jennie Allen.  At the top of each page, I invite you to write a statement of intention for your spiritual, relational, personal, and intellectual growth.  List your goals underneath.  For example:

Running the Race

It took me months to be able to run 13 miles, years for my mornings to begin with God, and it will take a lifetime to learn how to live like Jesus, but not a moment of that training or time spent with the Lord was wasted.  In building self-discipline, I’ve established healthy routines that have enabled me to grow closer to God, better care for myself, and more generously give to others.  The same can be true for you.

One mile at a time, one meal at a time, one decision at a time, we can cultivate the life God created us to live.  We can stop allowing life to happen to us and distractions to stray us off course.  On the days we’re struggling to stay motivated, we can learn how to be disciplined, stripping off the weights that slow us down – especially the sin that so easily trips us up – and running with endurance the race God has set before us (Hebrews 12:1).

Call To Action:  Download this Dream Guide by Jennie Allen and prayerfully consider how God is calling you to move forward in each area of your life (i.e. spiritual, relational, work, personal).  Write down your goals and intentions.  Next week we’ll talk about narrowing down our goals and creating an action plan to move forward. 

Call to Action #2:  Daily disciplines for our physical, mental, and spiritual well-being are key to improved health, inner peace, and a deeper relationship with God.  Join me for a 7-Day Jump Start to put positive habits into practice by clicking here to join my Facebook group.  Starting January 14^th, I’ll provide a nutrition tip, short workout, and daily devotional to fuel your body, mind, and spirit so you can live a healthy, focused life.

Resources:

12 Week Half Marathon Training Plan
Life-Giving Foods List

References:

1. 2018. Merriam-Webster.com. Retrieved December 28, 2018 from https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/discipline.
2. Taylor, Kimberly. (2015, July 23).  The 1 Thing Self-Disciplined People Do.  Take Back Your Temple.  Retrieved December 15, 2018 from https://www.takebackyourtemple.com/1-thing-self-disciplined-people/.
3. Foster, Richard. (2018).  Celebration of Discipline – The Path to Spiritual Growth (Special Anniversary Edition).  New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishers Inc.